Whispering. Verb.
1. The hushed laughter of voices plotting a surprise, planning a tickle fight, or hiding under the bed in hope of winning hide n seek.
2. The breath filled noise of betrayal, slander, secrets, and lies. Lips moving quickly trying to regurgitate as many rumors as possible in a gab fest with friends. Hurtful entertainment.
Here's my new rule of thumb. Its so obvious that it pains me that I've waited this long to implement it.
If I would whisper it, I shouldn't say it.
Girls are habitual gossips. We don't talk loudly and openly about each other if the person is sitting in the same room as us. If we're feeling brave we might whisper a lie or two though. If I pause before I speak and think about what I'm saying, I don't want to say anything I wouldn't say if that person were in the room. BELIEVE ME. Gossiping and slander has gotten me in trouble a time or two...or fifteen. How can I fix it? Start with the whisper rule. No whispering unless I'm hiding or planning a surprise or in a special situation like a zombie apocalypse in which whispering would be vital. ; )
If you have a problem with someone be brave enough to say it to there face. I've been on a side where I had an issue ans addressed it immediately, and on a side where I let anger and bitterness sink in for months before blowing up into an erupting volcano of hot fury. Trust me, the side where I addressed an issue immediately ended up so much better. If you don't know something is broke you can't fix it. Trust me. Having "erupted" recently its something I don't ever want to do again.
